KEMS (Kink Education Minimum Standards) is a set of ethical standards for kink instructors. It has two parts:

  • The code of conduct sets expectations for how instructors should behave.
  • The mandatory disclosures give students the information they need to find instructors who are aligned with their values.

KEMS is short and simple: most instructors should be able to read and adopt it in less than 10 minutes.

Code of Conduct

As an ethical instructor:

  1. I model visibly excellent consent in my classes. more
  2. I practice robust consent in my personal life. more
  3. I create an accessible and inclusive classroom environment. more
  4. I maintain appropriate boundaries with my students. more
  5. I do not use coercion to prevent anyone from sharing information about me. more

Mandatory Disclosures

I disclose every time in the last 10 years that I:

  1. Was convicted of any sexual or violent crime. more
  2. Was the subject of any type of restraining order. more
  3. Was banned from a venue, organization, or event. more
  4. Was banned from teaching at a venue or event. more
  5. Used coercion to prevent anyone from sharing information about me. more

Adopting KEMS

Adopting KEMS is easy:

  1. Read and follow the code of conduct.
  2. If none of the disclosures apply to you, add this to your instructor profile: “I’ve adopted the KEMS code of conduct and have nothing to disclose.”
  3. If any of the disclosures do apply to you, here’s what to do next.

Need help interpreting KEMS? Check out the FAQ.

Not convinced? Here are 3 reasons you should use KEMS.


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